If You have a Friend Talking About Committing Suicide

Be direct.  Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide.  Don't be afraid to ask whether he or she is considering suicide, or even if they have a particular plan or method in mind. 

Be willing to listen.  Allow expressions of feelings.  Accept the feelings.

Don't be judgmental.  Don’t debate whether suicide is right or wrong, or feelings are good or bad.  Don’t lecture on the value of life.

Get involved.  Become available.  Show interest and support.

Don’t dare him or her to do it.

Don’t act shocked.  This will put distance between you.

Don’t be sworn to secrecy.  Don’t worry about breaking a bond of friendship at this point.  Friendships can be fixed.  Seek support.   

Offer hope that alternatives are available but do not offer glib reassurance.

Take action.  Remove means, such as guns or stockpiled pills.

Get help from persons or agencies specializing in crisis intervention and suicide prevention. If possible, have your friend call or promise to call the Crisis Center at (205) 323-7777.

In an acute crisis situation, take your friend to an emergency room at a hospital.  If none are available, call 911. 

Do not leave your friend alone until help is available. 

Follow up on your friend’s treatment.  Suicidal patients are often hesitant to seek help and may run away after an initial contact unless there is support for their continuing.  If medication is prescribed, take an active role to make sure the patient follows his or her prescription, and be sure to notify the physician about any unexpected side effects.  Often, alternative medications can be prescribed.